I’m so grateful. Seriously. GGs, take note:
When I tell you I’m in love with my husband, I mean it! Kwaku is such an anchor in my life and a leader! Aaaah! 14yrs ago I didn’t think I was in the market for his type of love, in fact I dated polar opposites of him in so many ways. I move fast, he moves slow. My personality is big, and Kwaku is just cool. I jump out of canons, and he cruises in Cadillacs….we have different speeds and different perspectives but we put the two together and make #teamamuti come alive!
The fossils of my past are just that! Dry bones. Were those guys “bad” guys? Probably not, they just weren’t for me! And I certainly wasn’t for them.
Know this about me: I was very much into dating and not into marriage, had no interest in kids, and enjoyed living my solo lifestyle. I was cool on my own and didn’t require the company of anyone. So you can only imagine the intimidation I felt when I met this man who was interested in wifing me up and making a family! HOLD ON KWAKU! Wait a second, let me catch my breath!
But his love won me over. I literally found myself desiring to be his wife and the mother of his kids! 😳
So take it from me:
1. Learn when to let go of someone that doesn’t belong to you. If it’s love, you will feel it, be fully persuaded of it, and feel like life would be incomplete without it.I applaud MYSELF for letting go of every single dude that I dated before my husband. It took courage to believe that there was someone out there for me. Well, thank God we were both in position to love each other! (That’s code for we didn’t have any baggage, any leftovers, no residual nonsense hanging around)
2. Don’t force yourself to love someone that doesn’t love you. Be patient and be willing to stand up for what you deserve. Trust me ladies, I had people tell me they loved me, and then I met Kwaku, who truly loves me! Totally different.
3. Understand that your significant other may not come in pretty wrapping paper with a bow, like in the movies! Those are well scripted and casted dreams that leave many women feeling like they’re not getting a great guy if he doesn’t fit a script.Kwaku and I met each other with about $2 and a pocket full of dreams. We both had metro cards, roommates, and history. Now, we have about $6 😜, many dreams fulfilled, a whole bunch of kids (ok 2, but that’s 2 more than I ever dreamed of), a present, and a future.
4. Know this for sure: when you do meet your significant other, there will be a huge amount of WORK that goes into making 2 strangers become 1 unit. Kwaku and I resisted each other in so many ways, but we kept working through those kinks in the 3 yrs before we got married; and, now 10 yrs into marriage we still put in the WORK because we want to keep our love fresh! And no, we ARE NOT PERFECT. Nope, definitely not. But we are #teamamuti
Hopefully this post will give you a fast pass through some of what I learned through hard knocks!
And last but not least, I adore Kwaku Amuti and I want the world to know it!
XO,
Sybil.
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11 Comments
Hello there!!
Today is my first day joining the GG and I loved this blog post! What a great read! I can relate to you, I LOVE my hubby to, he's a blessing in my life and such a support. You don't read people talking about how much they are in love nowadays... but this was a refreshing read. love is real, and with God, hard work and a WHOLE lot of patience, it is a beautiful thing!
May God bless you both! Thanks for sharing!
Your new GG,
Tahisha S.
Love this! Thank you for sharing your journey to love.
Joresa! You're so welcome sis!!!!
Love to you!
Sybil.
I love LOVE!!! Thanks for sharing!
Aminata!
Thank you so much!
I love this and it's so true. I always viewed Sybil as an advocate for love and healthy relationships. She always taught me directly and indirectly (by example) that I should know my worth and be treated with value, never settle for less and aspire for greatness, especially where love is concerned. And she lived it! She is an amazing cheerleader with awesome perspective. Sybil opened my eyes to see the amazing man who was standing in front of me, (thankfully it wasn't too late and we are now married). As awesome as she is, Sybil is transparent and is totally against being put on a pedestal or being viewed as perfect. Syb teaches me to accept and enjoy life, love, laughter and everything in between.
Oh, this made me sooo happy! I feel like you - happy being #dolosolo and cool with the idea that I just may be single for the rest of my life...BUT THEN, I do remember that Love is SOOO beautiful when done soooo right. I'm willing to WAIT FOR IT! I'm hopeful and anticipating the day that we just happen to "bump" into each other. And I can't wait to feel that electrifying clarification that he's 'THE ONE'! #Finally! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you Sybil Amuti for being transparent in sharing with us your journey. This is so important because we need to know the true difference between fantasy and reality. And most of all, that it is not all about self! It takes two to make marriage work. God bless you in all your endeavors :-)
Today is my first day joining the GG and I loved this blog post! What a great read! I can relate to you, I LOVE my hubby to, he's a blessing in my life and such a support. You don't read people talking about how much they are in love nowadays... but this was a refreshing read. love is real, and with God, hard work and a WHOLE lot of patience, it is a beautiful thing!
A relationship is exciting! You want to immediately jump in and have a joint calendar, maybe some cute relationship hashtags, take personality surveys together, get matching tattoos… but slow down there (especially on the tattoos!)! That excitement is great
Thank's great post.
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