What Phase Are You In?

by Eb Tutora

Hey GG’s! 

Ok, I’m not even going to hold you- I’m a little bit cocky in my abilities, and faith in myself. Not that God hasn’t sat me down a few times because of it. The important thing is I HAVE learned the lessons. Don’t be cocky, be grateful and humble. (Oh, and ready to pivot.) 

As I stepped into motherhood with my fourth child this year, blessed with the most loving, and adorable baby boy (I already have three girls, so you can imagine my excitement), so much was new to me. 

My last baby was over 5 years ago, so just like a new mom I found myself anxious, frazzled, and in shoes, I have not felt since my first child over 10 years ago. 

I took note, and thought “OK, I’m in a new phase here.” 

As I rode the waves of 2019 (BABY, the waves!), I couldn’t help but notice this lesson of how our evolution never really reaches a point of arrival. The minute you think you’ve become a butterfly, all of a sudden you are a caterpillar again. 

We find ourselves in new territory, most likely trying to use the same old formula that got us where we are, and God is just looking at us like, “C’mon Girlfriend, THAT formula just won’t work for the new you.” 

One of the greatest reads (and best-sellers) of 2018 “Becoming” by former first lady Michelle Obama outlines this very point. In an interview, she addresses the question we ask children, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” 

She then states boldly, “I am 55 on my next birthday and I am still becoming,” 

Whew. What a WORD!

So, even for those of us that believe we have “arrived,” it’s so important to remember we are always stepping in and out of caterpillar-butterfly phases throughout life. 

2019 taught me to honor these phases and to recognize when I am a beginner in a new phase. Instead of facing the changes with dread, I’ve learned I still possess the wisdom I need to move forward in power and strength. 

I encourage you too to move forward into a new era in 2020, and to consider where you are and ask yourself “How can I honor this phase?” 

In the words of the late Maya Angelou, “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” 

Find gratitude in YOUR seasons. 

With Love and Light, 

Eb  Tutora

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